HELP!!!!! I need suggestions on diciplining my 7 year old.....?

Question

Every single night she litterally throws such a fit about something (never the same thing) I wonder if she is possessed. Everything about her changes... even her voice. I dont know what to do. It is always something different. SHe kicks and screams and her whole body turns red. I litterally dont know her when she is like this. Please I need suggestions.. I am at my witts end with her. We never know what is going to set her off. Other than that she is such a sweet pleasant little girl... She is starting to become very violent when in this "mood". It is just like a switch. Then after this she starts saying "I am sorry I am only 7." I dont know what is going on... Please I really need help with her! I cant take much more of these moods and I am scared to death that she will teach my other kids to do this as she is my oldest!

Answer 1

The statement "im sorry I am only 7," tells me she knows how to minupulate you. Stay firm with punishment and consistent. Remember that you are the parent you set the rules and guidelines. Just stick to it. She is the child and dont let her controll the situation. They learn at a very young age whether your a push over or not. I would take all toys and stuff like that out of room put bed on floor so she can throw fits without hurting herself. Then let her fit away and that way she cant see what reaction is comming from you.She can see that she freaks you out, so dont let her see.

But you may have to take her to doc and see if there is something else going on. Kids dont know how to express feelings the way that we think they should

Answer 2

WOW! I have one question, do you ever justify her behavior by saying, "I am sorry, I am only 7."? Obviously she got that from somewhere and if not you, you may want to find out who.



It is not good for her to get so worked up that her whole body turns red. I would discuss her behavior with your doctor or her school counseler. There is something going on and you need to find out what. Good luck!

Answer 3

Simple question for you When she has these little episodes does she get your attention or do you ignore her? Is she doing this just before bed time? Try spending more time with her at night, not watching TV but just hanging out with her alone, and maybe ask her why she becomes so upset? I would speak to her pediatrician, she might be allergic to food, or having bad dreams at night. Good Luck, man it is scary to be a parent

Answer 4

when my kids tantrum I send them to their room and ignore it. They know they can tantrum in their room and when they are done they can once again join the family.

Sit down and have a family meeting and ask her to help set some rules and come up with consequences to her tantrums. This will make her think about what should happen to her and she will feel involved. Then when she tantrums you just ask her what the rule is. Try a behavior chart with stickers and rewards she picks.

Good luck

Answer 5

I agree that this does not seem normal. I'd take her to a doctor and see if she is bi-polar, it seems like a possibility, or she may be possessed, go to your church and talk with them about it. If she is bi-polar make a point of not "labeling" her... labels often last longer than the actual effects that sometimes kids grow out of.

Answer 6

Be careful she does not get medicated for being a little active. i found what worked with my kids was when she kicks up a fit . do a stupid dance or make faces anything to make her laugh and forget about her fit.You could try a book and make up silly dances or funny faces.it sounds weird but it worked for me and my son was very violent.he soon had fun and forgot the fits. but watch they dont throw fits so you can be silly with them. Shes just looking for some one on one with you. Hope it works.

Answer 7

It sounds as if you are extremely scared. If I were you I would take her to the doctor, and if that fails or doesn't seem to please you, then I would try a Pennyrile center because counseling may seem to help even though she is only seven years old. I hope that everything works out for you. God bless.

Answer 8

Whoa U Need Super Nanny or Nanny 911!!!

Answer 9

I feel your pain. I'm at aloss with my 6yr old. Hesdoing the same things and worse

Answer 10

Take her to her regular doctor and tell him what is going on so he can recommend you to someone who will beable to help you with the problem.

Answer 11

Have you had her tested to see if she is bi-polar? My grandson was doing similar things and we found out that he was. Best of luck to you

Answer 12

do you guys go to church. if so you should talk to someone there. if not. take her to the doctor. this is not normal she needs help. sorry.

Answer 13

PLEASE if you find a good answer let me know........ I have a 7 yr old son acting the SAME way. Tomorrow we have a appointment with the principal bc this behavior goes on at school as well. So please let me know. Thanks and good luck.