I need ideas for disciplinary tactics for my nine year old son.?

Question

No physical punishment.

Answer 1

If your a chrstian then you can do one of the things that works great for my 10 year old. If he lies I have him find a scripture in the bible about lieing and then I have him figure out why he shouldnt and then write the scripture 10 times It covers two things off the top it gets your son grounded in Gods word and He learns there is more than one way to handle a situation. and He will become very equiped with the word of God. It will really help him in the future also.

Answer 2

Try positive reinforcement--reward him on his good behavior.

This doesn't always have to be store-bought or anything--it can be something as simple as playing a game or doing some other activity together. Majority of the time when a child "acts out" it's because he/she wants attention from the parent and finds the best way to get it is in a negative

way. If you give your son a little of yourself when he behaves in appropriate ways this will make him want to "act out" less and less.



Another idea is to create a chart that covers 1 week. Each night before your son goes to bed go over the day and for each time he behaves appropriately he gets a point on his chart. (You can track this with stickers, drawing a smiley face, etc.) When he reaches a predetermined amount of points

(established by both you and your son) he gets a reward. The

bigger the reward the more points it'll take. I have found this to be especially useful with my son through several things in the past.

Answer 3

When my son was 9, taking away privileges and being grounded didn't seem to phase him and neither did a swat on butt or a time out, so I came up with this. If he misbehaved, he had to do a chore. Depending the type of offense, the chore(s) ranged from doing dishes to cleaning the bathroom to changing the cat's litter box. This may sound silly, but it has made a difference in my son and has the added benefit of helping me!

Answer 4

Try this.....I liike to call it the "thinking Position" when he gets angry...Place his back against a wall....And have him squat down to a 90 degree angle and stay there. The give him a pen/pencil to hold at eye level.....This allows him to associate physical stress with his anger....I started this with my 4 year old daughter and it has worked wonders. Let him do this for about 10 minutes each time....and tell him that this is punishment for being angry....

Answer 5

Depends on what he has done or not done. If it is not following rules, thus he could get hurt for example...take a away a favorite toy or priviledge-something that will have an immediate impact. Don't get so angry yourself. Explain the "why" of the situation. Teach him to understand and want to make the right choices himself.

Answer 6

My 8 yo step son absolutely hates watching his brother and sisters have fun while he is stuck in the corner and not allowed to play with them. Another one that really worked good for me was to make him stand in the corner and make him hold a dictionary (a nice thick heavy one)straight in front of him for 5 minutes without letting it fall. I know it sounds cruel but, it really worked for him.

Answer 7

You can read Larry Keefauver's book, I forget the title but the book will teach you 77 ways to handle all your children's problems. I hope the book help you to solve your problem.

Answer 8

Grounding- and not the kind where they're in their room with their x-box, tv and movie collection.

Answer 9

i would beat the living **** out of the little bastard