please help me i really need help with my little brother?

Question

hello im nicole im a 17 year old girl and i have a 9 year old brother and my parents are never home they work 24/7 i havent seen my parents in about 2 months. my best friend lives with me with her younger brother whos 9 to. my brother has been acting like a baby around my friends and been crying and wineing i have no clue why i mean he basically thinks im his mother im a senoir this year its very hard taking care of my brother i mean he plays ice hockey and but rite now he has a broken wrist and a sprained ankle which he is on cruches all he wants his me i had to go to a meeting for highschool and he cryeed and taled like a baby infront of my friends i dont treat him like a baby at all. why is he doing this im tempted to put him in a diaper to treat himmlike a baby my friends brother dosent act like this its annoying why is he doing this????/

Answer 1

I am sorry that you have been put into this positin at such a young age and very noble of you for acting so responsible. I am sure that he probably is afraid if losing you. I know that he hasn't literally lost his parents but I am sure he is emotionally feeling abandoned. When the two people who are supposed to love you the most choose not to spend time with you it can be hurtful. He is really young to have to deal with these feelings and probably isn't sure how to express them correctly. He is lucky to have someone who loves him as much as you do to stand in and care for him. I am sure he just needs to know that you love him and are going to be there for him.! You shouldn't give him a hard time, just make sure he knows that you are going to be there for him. And as for your friends brother not acting the same way, each person deals with their emotions in a different way, even if they are experiencing the same emotion!

Answer 2

Nicole,



We are glad you reached out today. It has to be difficult that you are your brother's parent figure, and frustrating when he doesn't act the way you think a 9 year old should. Did he whine and cry before he had the broken wrist and sprained ankle? If not then it could be that he is feeling frustrated that he isn't able to do things he had done previously. If he exhibited this behavior before, then it could be that he feels somewhat insecure because your parents aren't around very much.



Instead of criticizing him encourage him to be independent. Ask him to help you do chores around the house. Even with his limited mobility he can still help. Praise him for helping you. Also, when he is acting his age, praise him as well. Catch him while he is doing things right and praise him.



When he is crying and whining ignore the behavior and let him know you will talk to him later when he is not exhibiting that behavior.



If you would like to talk more about this issue, call the Boys Town National Hotline, 24/7, at 1-800-448-3000, or go to www.yourlifeyourvoice.org.



NF, counselor

Answer 3

Probably needs quality time with his now surrogat mother, you have become the only person he has contact with and. Little tykes like him can be very needy. I don't like the fact that your parents are working all the time but sacrifices by everyone of age have to be made to suport the family. I'm sorry that you are having to grow up so fast but the family must survive.

Answer 4

I simply saw that too and i'm now not fairly definite what she manner, i guess we will simply have got to wait and watch the show tonight, i are not able to wait, Friday night one's are invariably my favourite reason Devina's there! I believe it should even have something to do with the balloting strains closing faster this week.