what if you started a family and your kid had sex at 10?

Question

like on his/her b-day and you walk in on them

Answer 1

at 10 a child is searching for affection, you need to wonder three things.

1. Why are they lacking affection? You your spouse? What type of approval and acceptance are they looking for.

2. How were they exposed to the "need" for this type of contact

3. how can you get it across to them that people make mistakes and then live by them. Be there to support your child but at this point you are no longer a friend you are a mentor. Support but be firm. LISTEN more then anything. That child is screaming out to tell you something. There is a reason this act was at home and not somewhere else. Kids now days have resources everywhere, they could have gone anywhere but chose your home. Help them...both.

Answer 2

Wow! Before you go ballistic, you need to consider why your child thought this would be a good choice. Is sex taken very casually in your home? Is it an event the child may have observed (either seen it or heard it)? What are your attitudes about it?



I know kids are starting younger, but 10 still isn't old enough for most of the puberty hormones to have kicked in. This doesn't sound right. You don't say whether it was your son or daughter, or who the other partner was, but it sounds like abuse.



Get your kid into counseling immediately! If you have a son, you want to be sure you don't have a rape suit on your hands, because since he's a minor, guess who gets to pay for the baby - YOU! And you don't want this escalating. Either gender could become sexually abusive at any time.



In fact, since this has probably affected the entire family, you may want to find a marriage & family therapist who can talk to all of you as well as your child alone. An MFT can also advise you on how best to discuss sex with your child, since the physical introduction has already occured. Good luck!

Answer 3

Counseling is a start as long as you, your child, and maybe the other family talk to the children about sex and aspect of the birds and the bees. So much of society-gay, les, sex changes are affecting children along with peer pressure at young ages. Dont be so quick to blame the children unless of course they BOTH are educated in this area. Also take the child to a health clinic for a checkup, talk about safe sex and other methods.

Answer 4

Get counseling now! Also find a way for this person to find something to feel acomplished in rather than sex!

Answer 5

I would get them as much counseling as I could afford.Because sex that early could be very damaging!

Answer 6

WHOA! I'd whip both of their a**. It's bad enough she's having sex, but then she's disrespecting you in your own home. Just plain out DISRESPECTFUL. Is he/she out of control?? This is some real Maury mess. Just the thought of it makes me upset.

Answer 7

I guess it would have to be a girl having relations with an older man, but you can't be serious.

Answer 8

Did you maybe mean your teenage son/daughter, on his/her 18th birthday at 10pm?

Answer 9

I would be rather disturbed, but not mad unless they werent using a condom. I also might kill them both