What are some consequences for my 8 year old son?

Question

My son has been acting out in school. Every day he is disruptive in one way or another. It's been constant for weeks. I'm trying to think up some consequences for him at home, but I'm running out of ideas. He goes to sleep early, no dessert or treats, etc. Lately he's had to do extra chores, but we're running out of rooms for him to clean. We've started to upgrade to missing birthday parties and such. Nothing seems to make an impact. I'm not sure what to do next. Any good ideas?

Answer 1

I'm thinking this child is doing what is referred to as attention getting behavior. I'm not sure of the dynamics you have going on in your house IE. other siblings, divorce, working parents. Regardless, I would try positive reinforcement as the other person suggested. Look for every little thing "Johnny" does right. He said thank you when you passed him the potatoes at dinner. "Thank you Johnny, I really appreciate it when you are nice and polite and use your good manners. I'm so proud of you!"

Also, sticker programs work good. Smiley faces for good behaviour, sad faces for bad. At the end of the day, add up faces (make sure to try to have him earn more happy than sad) and he receives a sticker for more good than bad. At the end of the week, a reward is given, or allowance, for stickers received. This makes for alot of work, but gives the child much needed attention. However, if this is new behavior, might like to find out the root cause, whether it be at home or in school. Love, love, love, but never without discipline. Remember, the LOVE coin has two sides: Affection and Discipline.

Answer 2

Maybe it has to do with attention. Some kids misbehave because it is the only way they know how to get attention. Even though it is negative attention they just want/need it. Just changing the way you do things at home could help him at school. Like praising him for little things that we usually don't pay attention to, like getting up and ready on time in the morning or anything silly like that. If it is an attention problem he will turn around in a matter of days.

Answer 3

My dad did PARK with us. When he does one thing wrong he gets a P then A then R then K after K he has to sit in time out in a place with no tv, or even anything intersting to look at. Like a blank wall. Make sure you keep track of the exceptional thing s he does that are good. And give him stickers or stars on a calander then reward him when he gets so many. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I like the book Positive Discipline...I can't remember the author (it's a lady). It talks a lot about understanding what your child is thinking because they think and reason differently than adults. It also gives good ideas on how to reward good behavior instead of punishing bad behavior. However, don't think it is one of those touchy feely don't discipline books...it isn't. :o)



Check it out you will probably find something in it useful. I've read the version for teenagers and for preschoolers. I don't agree with everything she says, but for the most part it has been very helpful in my house. good luck!

Answer 5

Give him a spanking but if you don't want that stuff in your house, you shouldn't let him do anything. He shuld just go in his room, do his homework and then read a book until dinner. He shouldn't be allowed to do anything at all. What I would do is write a letter to the teacher to make him do "extra work". He needs to know that he can't act up that bad.

Answer 6

i honestly would look to see what happened around the time that he started acting up...just to check...anything new happen recently...to you or your kid...kids alot of times don't know how just to tell someone something is wrong



if you can't think of anything maybe try a 180...try taking him out just to have fun..just the 2 of you...just let him know that you love him anyways...i am not the first to say don't punish your kid but right now you might be pressing the gas when you are stuck in the mud...sometimes a differant approch helps

Answer 7

I'm 13 Some good punisments are Making him stand outside with a large sign that says Im preparing for my futrue or just spank him

Answer 8

First, talk to him and find out WHY he's doing the things he's doing. It sounds like there's more going on and that his acting out may be nothing more than self defense, etc. Talk to your child, and don't get upset when he tells you! It may be taht you just need to talk it through with him, rather than punishing him.

Answer 9

when my fiances son went throught his stage we just gave him extra attention and when that didnt work we gave him options either you do this or you lose this and you have to be firm and stick to it. if you tell him to do something and he doesnt then take something away for a couple of days...favorite game, tv anything. eventually he will come around...good luck and hope this helped

Answer 10

Find out why he's disrputive...sometimes its not intentional misbeahavior..for example is he going through some sort of change in life? set aside special time to chat with him...

Answer 11

We use something called "blackout" which means no computer, no games, no music, no leaving the house or calling friends for a day

Answer 12

Every time you are alone with him, tell him what he is doing any WHY he is doing it.