How do u make a 5 year old boy to stop crying like a baby cuz he dont get his way.??

Question

How do u make a 5 year old boy to stop crying like a baby cuz he dont get his way.??

Answer 1

Give him a CHOICE, like this: "If you want to cry, you can go to your room. Or, if you can take a deep breath and calm yourself down, then you can stay here and play with your toy."



If you know in advance that he's going to have a problem, then you can tell him what to expect BEFORE he throws a fit, like this: "We're going in the store, but I'm not going to buy you a toy today. I expect you to have good behavior and to help me get the things on my list. Let's see how many minutes it takes us to get everything."



If he wants to get his way, that means he is old enough to have some control. LET HIM CONTROL SOME THINGS that matter to him. Can he choose what clothes to wear? Can he sometimes decide what you'll have for supper? Can he sometimes choose what you'll watch on TV?



Sometimes, when his behavior is good, let him have his way. Let him know you are impressed when he is able to calm himself down. REWARD him and CONGRATULATE him for good behavior!

Answer 2

Pick a way to discipline him and be consistent. Even in public because that is where he is going to try you at once he is doing good with it at home, well, that and relatives. They key is consistency. No giving in no matter how much her cries or what he says. Remember you are punishing for him not getting his way not the crying. You can't give in to him when he throws a fit and you give him his way. If you do this he has learned that if he cries enough that he will get what he wants. That is not his fault. That is how he has learned to get his reward. When you feel like giving in, that means that you are just about at the point of the breakthrough that you need. Hold tight and be consistant and you'll do fine. Make sure that everyone else follows your rule also, or you will have to correct the behavior every time he comes home from grandma's or whoever's.

Answer 3

i agree with tcm... you must be consistent in disciplining your child... don't give in to what he wants even if he's throwing his tantrum or crying out loud in public. he will get used to having his favors done just by crying. let him cry, it could be a bit embarassing if its in public and you may receive some bad remarks about how you treat your child, but it will be worth it in the long run.



he's already 5 yrs old so he is now able to understand... you should tell him that crying won't let him get what he wants.



one tip that really worked with my younger brother is to tell him the purpose of why you have to go out, and why you need to bring him. (tell him the truth! you have to buy some groceries, do an errand)before you go to the supermarket or to the mall. tell him that your budget is only enough for what you are going to do. if he start pointing at things or starts to cry over a toy or a favorite junk food, just remind him and tell him that what he does will not make him get what he wants, warn him that you'll leave immediately if he continues. do not bribe. if he still does... rush on with you're doing and go home immediately. be true to yur words... do what you told him. it may be inconvenient but it will really teaches the child by giving him firsthand experience

never ever bribe, it is never a good practice and never promise him anything that you can not do or you might forget giving him... but if he eventually behaves you can reward him. buy him the toy or the snack he bawled over the last time... or you can ask him what he wants for a change.



good luck!

Answer 4

I used to babysit for a friend of mine. She never told her 4 year old no. However, when he was dealing with me I would always tell him like it is from the begining. For example, he was hungry so I made him a sandwich. He said he didn't want the sandwich. I frankly told him to eat it or not eat it. That was his choice but he would not get anything else. Telling him no always worked for me because he knew I would not give in. If his mother said no he would cry because it worked on her. I was very proud of him because one day we (my husband and I) took him to six flags and he threw a fit. I immediately sat him on a bench, I sat down next to him and told him to let me know when he was done throwing his 'fit'. He put his head on his knees and cried for a min, then he stopped and said "I'm done". Children need consistancy.

Answer 5

Don't give in just because he's crying. I know that sounds simple but that is how the situation got started in the first place.

Answer 6

IGNORE HIM!!! He'll will then realize that crying like a baby will not get him what he wants

Answer 7

tcm's answer was very good.



The keys are consistency, and not giving in.



If he cries, let him. He'll eventually learn that it doesn't work, and the behavior will stop.

Answer 8

i dont know but when you get an answer i want to know too!!! i have the same problem with my son