How do I comfort a child who has received poor PSLE results?

Question

How can I console him while letting him see he shouldn't be satisfied with failure?

Answer 1

Most answers seem to focus on the child and how to console him. However, a child around this age still takes his cue from his parents/adults.



The first thing is to ask "What has been my expectation of him?", "Did my words or body language communicate my disappointment toward him?" For example, you have mentioned "poor". This is subjective. To you, it could be "poor" but to him, it could be "I've tried my best!".



At this point in time, consoling him would not be of much use if, in your heart, you still hold the idea that his results are "poor".



Having checked your own feelings, now affirm him that you accept his results, even when he has failed! If you can honestly tell yourself deep inside that a single exam result is not the end of the world for either of you, than look at him in the eyes, hold his hands, smile and say in your most reassuring tone, "It's OK" and give him a hug.



What you have just done is to bond with the child and gain his trust first with 2 words, "It's OK" and a smile. This would mean more than a whole lot of motivational words and lecture.



Once done, cool off. Some time later, wait for a "teachable moment" where you can sit and talk about areas of improvement. He will be more receptive of your words then.



It may be tough to do but its worth trying - my boy got his results today, too.

Answer 2

Hi i'm from singapore and have completed my PSLE a few years ago. I am not an expert on how to console people but please try this method out.



Tell the child that PSLE is just a minor stepping stone to future, bigger and better paths. Not doing well in the PSLE should not hinder him/ her from pursuing a better future.



I have many friends who did badly in the PSLE. I'll give you an example. I have this friend by the name of Yuan Xin. Now she is a very bright girl. However, she did not work hard with the resources she was given. She was of Express calibre but was posted into a neighbourhood school into the Normal (Technical) Stream. However, within this year, she has worked very hard and has topped the level at that school. She has also been offered the chance to promote into Sec 2 Normal (Academic).



Now, since I do not know the nature of this child and how 'badly' her results was, there is always one thing you can be sure of. There will always be somebody worse off then the child. Just know to work harder for what he/she wants in the future so he/she will not be disappointed by lousy results again.



I wish you luck in trying to comfort this child. All the best.



Regards,

Lynn

Answer 3

Well,PSLE only determines which secondary school the child is going to,not the future.A bad psle result doesnt mean a bad o level result.Many students also did pretty well in o level despite their poor psle result.Failure is the mother of success.Take this as one of the setback of life.There are many rocks in life.If one is faltered and smashed by only the first one,how to go to work in the society?You should try to move it aside.The child can also strive harder in the o level to show that poor psle graduator can also be a successful o level graduate.

Answer 4

You first have to ensure him that failure isn't everything.

Ask him whether he has done his best or whether there was anything affecting his studies.

Help him find out what caused his poor results and encourage him to work on those factors.

Show him that failure helps to pinpoint problems in his approach which will help him do better next time.

Maybe you can tell him a success story of someone who did poorly in PSLE but did very well in the "O" levels?

Answer 5

I am a child who had just collected my results today. My PSLE results are okay but you can tell the child that he has tried his best and failures are normal through life failing his PSLE does not mean that he would not succeed in life.

Answer 6

Move on. Know and understand the character of the child. Let the child learn to accept failure but not defeat. Find out what went wrong in his performance - cognitive? confidence? or just things didn't go the way it should on the day of exam. Take this as an opportunity to allow yourself and child to evaluate your individual roles in getting his/her development right. Exam results are not everything, it is the development process that matters most - that makes the child a winner in life.

In the meantime, some chocolates and ice-cream may be good for comforting!

Answer 7

well,i din do really good in my PSLE as well.most importantly you have to let him know tt there's no use crying over spilt milk.i know it may seem a bit too harsh.but try to let him understand this first.you can also talk to him in private and ask him if there are any problems he faced during his study/any subjects he has problem in and try to help him improve.and also you may want to tell him this:an exam is like a race.in a race,there must be a person first and last to reach the finishing line.however,no-one is a loser if he tries.a person only loses when he gives up.and in order nt to give up,he shd keep trying,continuing to train and prepare well for the next race so that he will improve.

he should also not pit himself against others but to use his past results to create a borderline/target so that it wont be so upsetting for him.

you may also want to tell him that he's doin all tis for himself and nobody else.and that his future is all in his hands.he could just sit there and cry about his results,blame people for his results or he could have an enjoyable holiday for now,and when his new school life begins,learn from his previous mistakes and correct them.HE HAS THE POWER TO CHOOSE!!but at the same time,he should not stress himself too mush as stress only reverses the effects.also,try to let him get realy interested in a subject by applying it to his life and suroundings once he have learnt something.i personally feel that science is a really good subject to start with.i am nt asking you to make him tell you everything he has learnt but to be really comfortable telling you about his school-work automatically or to share with you his newly-gained knowledge : )



i really hope this helps.send my regards to that person.try to motivate him as much as you can(",)



rmb: no-one is a loser if he tries!!

Answer 8

Ahhhh!!!...been there done that!!...Failing exams that is......

From my "personal" experience, I feel that failing an exam is just like stepping on a bad patch of mud while crossing a field . Failing to do so results in really soiled shoes. But the Best thing is you can always buy new shoes(retake the test)!! You don't have to carry on wearing the 'soiled shoe' for the rest of your life! And having the support of parents especially when the child is down is really really important. I mean the world is an 'evil' place when you are down and nearly out. So if you reach home only to be put further down.....it's just not rite....Will drive the child to contemplate various ways to kill himself/herself......I remember coming up with several dozen ways to vanish myself from this world. Remember mud will clean off but hurt will remain indefinately. Does the last sentence even make sense? I hope everything does as I just sustained partial fingerprint lost due to all this typing!!

(p.s. Tell your kid to try and try again and never give up and than stuff him into a luggage and bring him to a 3rd World country for vacation so that he can see/understand life without education etc...)

Answer 9

You first have to ensure him that failure isn't everything.

Ask him whether he has done his best or whether there was anything affecting his studies.

Help him find out what caused his poor results and encourage him to work on those factors.

Show him that failure helps to pinpoint problems in his approach which will help him do better next time.

Maybe you can tell him a success story of someone who did poorly in PSLE but did very well in the "O" levels?

Answer 10

What is PSLE?

you might want to look at this a little differently, if he needs consoling, he obviously isn't satisfied with the failure.



I'll assume this is your child and say this. give him your love and support. don't think less of him for not preforming well, but offer to help him improve. try to find ways for him to have fun learning.

Answer 11

Frankly, I guess the best thing to do is to leave him alone. Personally, I dont think having poor PSLE results is being classified as a 'failure'. Your child could be a late bloomer, maybe encouragements instead should be key.



Do note that, how you handle this, would actually result in your child doing better or worse in secondary school..

Answer 12

Every failure is a lesson. If ones succeeds in everything he does, he does not learn anything.



This is a good opportunity, to teach him that life is full of ups and downs. That obstacles like these will come often. That failure is inevitable. However, one should take failure as a learning lesson, and not repeat the same mistake again.



If he is able to overcome this, he will be better prepared to handle failures further in his life, such as job interview rejection, relationship break-ups etc.



For the record, I am a failure too, in poly. I failed a subject and have to stay back half a year as I watch my friends graduate before me. Initially I was very depressed about it, but now, I felt that I have learnt a valuable life lesson. In fact, several life lessons. I won't disclose what these are, but I can only say that it has certainly changed my outlook on life.

Answer 13

First and foremost the PSLE is the first of at least 3 more exams in yr child's education span.There will be more chances for him to prove his intelligence.I bellieve a more recognizable test will be the O levels.a more crucial paper plus it's validated by the Uni of Cambridge.Secondly education is not the only formula for success,though it does provide foundation for knowledge and skills.Success comes though applying yr knowledge in the best way.its not abt getting good results for yr exams,its all about how u appply it in yr career and that will lead to a good career and lots of dollar signs!

Answer 14

Well, although in Singapore, results are highly regarded, they do not determine whether you're a failure or a winner. If your child is truly disappointed, it goes to show that he cares, and that he probably did his best in his PSLE.



You have to tell him that although the results are below your expectations, but if he did his best, it's alright. Exams depend on your luck too.

Answer 15

Tell the child it's not the end of the world. Failure is part of success. To succeed, we must learn how to cope with failure. Realize your mistakes and never to repeat those mistakes again. In turn success will come. There are many stories of people who failed in exams but succeed in life thereafter. These are not miracles. They are hard work. So tell the child not to give up hope and always strive hard for the best. And finally have faith in God because failure is a test from him. God will be there for you if you believe in him. God bless all.

Answer 16

PSLE stands for Primary School Leaving Examination.



i'm a singaporean too, and i took my PSLE test last year. i wasn't really satisfied with my score though, as i had a much higher prelim score..but may i know how much your child got before i may comment more?

Answer 17

tell him that failure is a must to grow up.

shi bai shi cheng gong zhi mu ,asaying in chinese, yea.



and besides, employers and resumes dont look at psle results,, its the O level that is the most basic.

so doesnt matter whatever the psle results is, just work towards the BEST for Olevels

Answer 18

If the results are poor in the sense that the child can still enter the express stream, tell him not to worry because some of the top students in NUS come from inconspicuous secondary schools.

If it is excessively poor, guide him on the proper path to achieve his goal ultimately.

Be realistic, because if he cannot even enter the express stream, his chances of being a doctor is naught.

Answer 19

hi there i take it these are primary school tests that he had to do and i also get the feeling that he didnt do as well as he was told to do this poor wee thing is stressing out about a test now how will he cope later on in school life look the only way to get round this is to encourage fun learning ,going to a zoo for example and let him tell you about the tigers or what ever stimulates his mind and as he s talking about what ever tell him that he is very clever to know that now do you know about something else ......make sure it intrests him and even if you have a degree in the topic that he says you both go and learn it together that way he will realise that learning is fun and he will move on from the test results that is causing the problem i always say to my kids and i've got three all i want you to do is youre best .....and thats all,how can i expect top grades if thwy cant be got ,if they do there best thats good enough for me .....good luck with this wee boy that so desperatley wants to please take care xx

Answer 20

assuming that you are the parent of this child, what I would suggest you do would be to simply show that you accept him. Absolutely no need for things like, "failure is the mother of success, blah blah blah..." That would be really frustrating at times because a kid doesn't think that far and is horribly cliche. The reason your child is feeling rotten bout his results would mainly be because he thinks that because of that, he would not be "accepted" by those that he admires, care for, etc. That's what we call insecurities. So, after saying so much, what I'm trying to get across is... Show that you don't care about how lousy his/her results are, show him/her that you accept and care for him/her just as he or she is.

Now, about the part where you don want him to be satisfied with failure....i think you can only encourage him using words. To find the vigour that pushes him to work hard has to be inspired by something, at the right time. So basically, you can only nag about it until your child matures and realise the important of some things.

Answer 21

If its any comfort, I scored like 188 for my PSLE. Ive moved on to greater things. Just ensure that he does well for his O levels. For those top scorers back then, most I know arnt doing well in life. One is like working in Mcdonalds. I would advise you to seek a fortune teller to see what path is suitable for him. Saves time and he can concentrate what he will excel in.

Answer 22

Tell him that failure is 1 of the keys to sucess.For example,A few months old baby could not just learn how to walk without falling down.The baby would need help from people around him.Now change it back to the question.The child would be the baby.(not saying that the child is a big baby!!)The child would need more help from you and many other relatives.Reading helps a lot too!!You see,reading improves English.Not only that too!!!It improves History, Maths,Science.....and 1 more...kinda forget.Anyway,once he/she reaches secondary school or higher,at least 5 subjects would need reading.It's your choice whether you would want him to read or not.

Answer 23

Each child is different. So its hard have a stencil answer, Cause they all would react differently with different personalities. The best way to deal with it is to talk to them about it. How do they feel about it. As a parent or a guardian, offer your presence and its important to let them know you're here for them. Because they might wish to sort it out in their heads for themselves.



THEY ARE AT A STAGE IN THIER LIFE WHERE THEY WANT TO MAKE THIER OWN DECISIONS AND HAVE OWN TAKES ABOUT THEMSELVES. They DO have a mind of thier own, so you have to bare in mind he/she needs space.



So the best way around it is offer your presence ,affection and cheering up(if nessacary).

Answer 24

You first have to ensure him that failure isn't everything.

Ask him whether he has done his best or whether there was anything affecting his studies.

Help him find out what caused his poor results and encourage him to work on those factors.

Show him that failure helps to pinpoint problems in his approach which will help him do better next time.

Maybe you can tell him a success story of someone who did poorly in PSLE but did very well in the "O" levels?

Answer 25

I also did not get very good scores even though I was posted in the express stream many years ago.



Low PSLE results does not mean low O Level results, neither does it mean poor A level or poly results,



and neither does it mean your child can't get into University,

nor does it mean a low-paying job with poor career prospects.



What he needs most is your support and encouragement, to tell him you really care and you believe wholeheartedly that he will excel in the future :)

Answer 26

just tell him it's not the end, all he has to do is to go to his new secondary school,and work hard. you also must tell him/her not to mix with bad company and not to play to much. tell him/her o get on with life. ther is still the O's and A's. or if he does really well in sec 2, a change of school to the IP programme could be possible.

Answer 27

It's not end of the world. give him example that those people who didn't study also make it in the real world....

Tell him to retake again....

tell him, not everyone need to be good in study perhap he is good in something else that not all have.



I too did badly end up normal steam and now i'm a senior engineer

Answer 28

The kid is only 12 years old! Just tell the child as long as he has done his best, you, as a parent is proud of him and tell him to continue to work hard in secondary school for his 'O' levels.



Most importantly at this critical age is the child's self esteem as he/she compares with other children and may feel inferior. So as parents, quit comparing. Give the kid a break!

Answer 29

Hi,



You explain to your child, that he/she did very well. But he/she may not able to successful in some subject. You should explain about them the consequence of real life. They may be successful in other activity. You have to identify the special knowledge and explain to them in very detail.

Answer 30

Persuade him that there sure be another chance he will get in his secondary school life.PSLE is important as it situates the student to four streams 1)special 2)express 3)normal academic(NA) and 4)normal technical. They are linked to each individuals ambition. I am sure some of his friends would have done poorly 2.tell him that he isn't the only student in singapore that has done poorly and that there are some others worse than him.And also encourage him that he has given his best shot and u are still proud of him.Hope everything goes well. No worries.

Answer 31

Explain to him that this is but just another of life's many examinations. Doing badly academically do not mean that he is stupid or less intelligent. Assure him on his other flairs and strengths and give him confidence and tell him that everyone excel one way or another, so long as he has put in his finest efforts, the result of his effort is not important.



This is also a time to help him learn about the setbacks in life which he is going to encounter as he grows.

Answer 32

Be a good example yourself for him to learn. Tell him how you overcome your own failures and bounce back to win success.

Answer 33

What's most important here is letting the child know that failure does not mean its the end of the world. As a parent, we have to show support and love. Tell him that, failure this time round, doesnt mean that his whole life is ruin forever. Children at that age need support, most importantly.



In order to show them not to be satisfy of their failure, we try to let them know, how important education are in the society now. From there, they will think for themselves that to have a better result, they will work hard towards it. And since they are growing up, give them some advices that may concern them as a growing child.

Answer 34

tell ur child. be strong.. dont give up. it s not like the world will end because of one test right? ur child will still be able to make it if he/she works hard in secondary school right! so dont be so sad about it, imagine if someone who gets a result which is even worst.. wat should he or she does?? jump of the building?? no, right? its just one test.... there are still more to go. he /she should not be giving up or feeling so sad because of getting poor results. ur child should be thinking about why he/she didnt get the result or school that he/she wanted and work hard!! remember.....the is still time! its only PSLE u still have O lvl... A lvl and other big/small tests and exams right. so work hard now and be prepared for ur own future. oh.. and always remember what he/she did wrong this time for the exam and make sure not to do the same thing again!! Gd luck =)

Answer 35

I can truly understand how your son feel. I am also very sad & thking why I am so stupid when i score onli 135 for my PSLE leading me to NT & then now I am in ITE. I have also just know my results for my CA's I work so hard yet I get 50/100 while my friend getting 80 plus even though she din study. Exams are just about knowledge and luck! I suppose ur son just cant get over the grieve of his PSLE. Let him know setbacks are for him to grown up & make him learn where are his mistakes are & he wont make this mistake again! You would always see the sun again after a heavy rain.! He needs sometime to get over the grieve maybe u can bring him to holiday and it can be better for him yah! g0 g0 jiayou! He can do it! All the best~

Answer 36

1)tell him success stories..since we are on the topic of singapore..why not tell him about david gan, our celebrity hairdresser? im sure you are pretty familiar with it.

2)encourage him to excel in other areas..academic results aint everything

3)teach him to manage his time and strive to do better..who knows..he can go into the sch of his choice in sec 3!!

4)lastly, tell him that you would still treat him the same..don't let him think that you are overly stressed over his poor results. often than not, these pple are stressed by their parents/peers. pressure is to be exerted with caution!

Answer 37

I also took my PSLE this year and only got 217. This can only get you to neighbourhood schools, but do not judge a book by its cover. My parents were not really pleased with me but my grandparents told me this wasn't the end of life. There is still O levels. Tell him or her not to be disheartened. There could be many other chances. Talk to him and take him out. You could also ask him to ask his friends over for some games too. Maybe bring me overseas. Tell him that as long as he passes his PSLE, he has many chances to correct them.

Answer 38

Try not to scold him is important. Tell him that he has tried his best, but shall do much better next time. As nothing can be done now as it was a past. But in the future, he shall work harder in order to achieve better results not for better school, but for better learning. I think try to find out his weakness and overcome it is important. Perhaps try to develop him from his strength may help him to learn better. And explain the consquences for failure in studies or life. Perhaps by sharing a real story. By one step at a time. Find right opportunity, don't stress him/she. She may also be very upset.

Answer 39

I have just sat for the PSLE paper last year and I know of a few friends who did badly. Being friends, I consoled them with encouraging words telling them of how hard the paper was and getting this mark is considered very good. It did work for my friends and they cheered up.

Answer 40

1)Tell him that you love him.

2)Assure him that failure is not the end of the world. There is always a second chance.

3)Tell him you believe that he will pass on the next try. At least he never scored zero!!

4)Teach him to ask himself questions like "Did I tried my best?" If he tried his best but still cannot pass, it's not his fault. Give him encouragement to strive harder.



To summarise it, cultivate the POSITIVE attitude in him despite facing failure. Positive attitude is THE winning formula.

Answer 41

What is a PSLE result?

Answer 42

This is what I would say to my own child, "Success doesn't lies in getting good results, thou it may be part of it, I'm happy as long as you try, jus promise me something, no matter what you do, be true to yourself. That is the true attitude of achieving success."

Answer 43

hmmm. assuming he is your child. comfort him and tell him it's alright if he tried his best. reassure him that u as parents still love him jus as much regardless of how he/she did. though PSLE is a major exam, as long as he can make it to the mainstream schools, he can still have a shot at doing well at the 'O' levels. I know that because i am one such student. I did badly for PSLE scoring only 217, but my parents encouraged me and consoled me, telling me that they were proud of me as i did my best. In the end for my 'O' levels i did well enough to enter a junior college (15 points) and now am waiting for the release of my 'A' level results and going into army soon. Tell your child that this isn't the end, he still has many other exams to work hard and score well for.

Answer 44

I strongly believe every child has his or her own potential and talents, even if it is not being recognised as yet. Not to worry about the poor PSLE results as no matter which school or stream you are in, you will still get to sit for 'O' or 'N' Levels and still attain good results through the help and guidance of your secondary school as well as efforts of their own. Give your child moral support as well as financial support such as neccessay tuitions etc. I scored badly for my PSLE and was on the verge of being channeled to Normal Academic. Luckily i was able to opt for Express and eventually managed to complete my secondary education smoothly.

Answer 45

I can comfort my child by saying"never mind next time try again work hard!:)"

Answer 46

actually,if he had done his best,it is alright. i know someone who normally does not do too well, but he worked and scored well for his PSLE. Give the child encouragement and tell him to work harder and never give up.



"Failure comes before success" Even though we fail, we must know how to work towards success. If you are willing to work hard, you will have a bright future. Do remember to tell him that even though he has to work hard, occasional breaks are important too. I am confident that if he put his heart and soul to his studies, he will do well in his O levels.



I hope this helps. :)

Answer 47

It's still early days..You still got the 'O' levels, 'A' levels and long way to go..



How you can influence his attitude will decide on how he fares on the other exams later on in life.

Answer 48

TELL HIM THAT PSLE RESULTS DO NOT MEAN EVERYTHING. Even my teachers says that it does not affect how well you do in your secondary school or in your Os, because what you learnt in secondary school and the Os are the most important. Take an example of a real life account of a student A in my school, she scored 148 in her PSLE but still did not manage to go into a JC after her Os, simply because she is too complacent and does not work hard during her sec school days. On the other hand, student B, a guy who scored a miser 189 in my school made it to the top JC as he realized his mistakes made in pri school (like playing too much comp games etc) and changed them to become a hardworking and consistent student. Tell the child that as long as he persevere and does his work CONSTANTLY in sec school, he'd surely do well in his Os.



If he's unsatisfied about going to lousier school or stream, console him by telling him that he can work harder, and be the top in class or even get promoted to a better class or school next time. Ask him to work hard and prove to his mates and teachers that he can be very smart after all.



Hope this helps =)

Answer 49

Well, get him a exacto knife. He could slash himself and take his mind off his bad result. At the same time, you could do that too.

Answer 50

Ya, there r success stories of people faring poorly in PSLE but later on excel in O level amd got a degree eventually.

Take Adam Khoo for example, the founder of Just Education Centre, who did poorly i think for Secondary School? Later on he he overcame the reasons for his failure and bounced back to success and eventually did great in life. Now he is earning big bucks. Well, i actually know someone who did very well for psle and O levels, it is still not enough for him to excel in life with these papaer qualification. U need other factors like being socially adaptive and emotional intelligence as well.

Answer 51

Well why don't you buy the child a present and tell the child its not the end and just give his/her best shot in secondary school...because even if he/her manage only to go to normal acacdemic, if he/her do well in the final year in secondary one, he/her can be promoted back to express...

Answer 52

I'm thinking poor is <200...



You should point out to him where he could have worked harder, and showing him how important studies is for his future. Most importantly, you should show that you still love him for who he is and not what he's done.



He will definitely be pressed in his heart by your care and concern, to work harder to please you and repay you for standing by him in his lowest times.



God bless you!

Answer 53

PSLE stands for Primary Scholl Leaving Examination. It also means Please Stop Learning English(PSLE). tats y ur child failed PSLE..zzzzzzz. sian.

Answer 54

no need to comfort him/her. u being the parent r the 1 that gave him too much pressure and feel so disappointed now. u r a LOSER!! get off his back ..

Answer 55

u talking bout "comfort"?it it nos comforting.it is placing stress upon the child! and its the last thing our children expects from us! ..if u want to con fort him.let him know..WHATEVER HE HAS DONE.IT WAS MAYBE HIS BEST! and that he can always do better next time..if u want success.at the expensive of yr kids.its NOT what the kids wants.but what YR yourself wants for the self THROUGH.the child.and it is the reason for too much stress in children in certain countries and in this day and time...now..wil the parents pass? and what is better?a child who did just OK.or a child who 's stressed out.sad,and maybe end up sick and add up to yr medical bill? what is better,a child.which for certain parents spells "failures" but who can do better some day.. for.he is still a kid and has got all his life still ahead of him..or a dead child.who due to his overbearing parents.end up sick or worse yet..pushed to the edge and commite suicide? lets allow our kids be kids.

Answer 56

Ask him to try harder next time

Answer 57

I have a cousin who did poorly in her PSLE results. Poor kids.. I am a Singaporean too and knows how it feels to be doing badly in my studies. There are the nosey parky relatives who compare their children or themselves with that poor kid.



I am now studying in a university and can share with you that i have my fair shares of failures in exams too. At 8 years old, i fail my English, then at 16 years old, i fail my English in my O levels. I retook my exams and got a B4 for it.



Failure in exams isn't everything, what matters is you do not quit. My cousin wasn't as fortunate as that kid because she doesn't has encouraging parents. Her mum actually ask her to quit school. So i am trying to change the mindset of those traditional folks who thinks women shouldn't be studying.



I am comforting my cousin too and tell her that there are 2 options. 1 is to retake her PSLE or 2 is to move on Normal Tech and work harder to Normal Acad. this is how i tell her, PSLE is just a stepping stone to your future.



If you give up or quit school now, you will never know what you can be when you grow up and i tell her that i failed exams before. Does this mean that i am stupid? not exactly? maybe i had not had sufficient preparation when i take this exam. i shall attempt it again and do better. This kid probably thinks he is dumb and facing parents wrath and disappointment is too much for this 12 years old kid. Just be a listen ear and offer your options to him.



I told my cousin that i failed English and got into a poly. Einstein is a physics genius and he failed school before!

http://www.westegg.com/einstein/

She cheered up after that. Hope it works..

Answer 58

Tell him/her that he/she has tried her best and should not give up.

Answer 59

I do not have a solution on how to comfort your son but I can relate you my experience which I think you could relate to him. Back in 1991 when I was primary 5, I fail my final exam and that time they practice "extended & mono class". From pri 5 I was channel to Pri 7 (isn't it weird)? Your son is lucky that you wish to comfort him but I don't. My parents ask me to left the house as young as 11 years old (just to scare me) and make me embarass infront of my young siblings who did well i their final year exam. When my mum wrap my new books, she will said that I embarassed her, ppl go pri 6 but I end in pri 7. My dad also said to my siblings "Your sis will end up working as a factory working when she grow up". All I could do is cry all night in my bed. But when I was in pri 7 and 8, I did well for my exam and get to go to a new secondary school and in sec 3, I was the top 1 - 100 who got to go the class of our choice (Science, Art, Geo). Just tell him, PSLE is not the end of the world. From sec school who knows he can get to go to express class....

Answer 60

Hi, I'm also a Singaporean. I've been through the same stage like your child did. I've poor PSLE results too. I wish to inform you that I've many friends who scored poor PSLE grades but you'll be rather surprised to see them getting excellent GCE 'O' levels results with flying colours and getting in top JCs in Spore. So it goes to show kids having low PSLE results doesn't mean they'll not succeed in his future studies. It is just that many kids are playful when they're young but they learn to get more competitive when they're older, and therefore try harder in their studies and strive for the best.



Well, to comfort your kid, just let him know he has already did his best in the exams and what's done has been done. There's no way to alter his results and nothing for him to grieve over with. Most importantly is, tell him to do a better job next time in his future studies and don't give up on himself. This is more crucial than to just grieve over something that has already been over. If he still continues to be so upset, his current results will still remain, nothing's going to change. Also let him know that sometimes, luck plays a critical part in anything. Not only with hardwork and effort put in, some luck also need to play its part to become a great success. So ask him to cheer up and remember to do his best in whatever he do in future. Once a person did his best, that is enough. That is the limit already and there will be no way to push for a higher limit. So take it easy and welcome the future endeavours and challenges. There are so much challenges for him to hurdle in life and if he can't even handle this small issue, how can he handle bigger problems and challenges. So tell him to learn how to accept failures and make failure the mother of success. That is the way to becoming a better person in life and also part of the growing up process of a successful man!