Question:
My nephew is 10 and CAN'T READ. What to do? (Read details)?
Deonndre21
2006-01-16 06:23:41 UTC
My nephew used to have mild seizures in his first year of life,and perhaps they've made his learning slower. He has no retardation and is very normal. He is however, not in the "normal" group of classes. I dont wanna call the classes he's in special because that seems overboard, but I dont know what to call them. He listens to the radio and seems to learn and remember songs well. He doesnt display any signs of being slow. He's normal, but he cant read. I blame my sister and the school because somehow he gets passing grades in reading and he is on the accelerated reader list. I dont think thats helping him at all, but Im not going to get in that because I want my answers to be based on what can be done in the future..not what has happened.
I want to take this into my own hands. I believe after he learns to read he will get on track and get in the normal classes. So what can I do to help him learn to read?
( i live 80 miles from him so i don't go there everyday)
Nine answers:
Craptacular Wonderment
2006-01-16 07:56:29 UTC
Well it seems that you are truely concerned and even a little pissed at his parents, and who could blame you. Let me start with this, how is it that you know all the details but live 80 miles away?, does he call you often, information from his parents, about his school work and grades? Or is he complaining about having to be in a "special class".



At this point, if he truely is not reading anything, then you can not handle this on your own, you're going to need a lot of help, and how much help are you talking here? Are you saying you want to take on guardianship of you nephew, can you do that to your sister, can you afford all the legal issues that come with making that happen?

If you feel this child is suffering from a terrible neglect, and feel like you have to do something then do it. BUT YOU HAVE TO HAVE FACTS to back it up, or you're going to be looked at very suspiciously.

What you are describing here is an IEP.. and individual educational program designed for his special needs, although he may look normal, and act normal there are certain parts of the brain that learn differently and are affected differently by their environment, if seizures were an issue when he was young they still may be an issue that you aren't aware of that is controlled either by a drug, or a controlled environment, too flashy of colors or patterns of colors can sometimes make this happen, (as it's been reported that seizure sufferes don't do well in Las Vegas, or on some video games.) Pressure can also set off a siezure. For these reasons he may NEED an IEP.

Now as far as not being able to read, the school systems are poor all across the USA, and they do receive special funding to their school for each person requiring special needs, I would look into the schools practices and begin finding where his share of funding is being spent, then begin going to all of the school board meetings and bring up this issue, and see what kind of reponse you get. BUT do not make a big scene, be discreet about your concerns for your nephews sake, he has enough problems, he needs your help, not to become the focus of everyones judgement.

If you can not find satisfaction there, take it to your State Department of Elementary and Secondary Education, or State Representative, or even your Governor. They will open an investigation into the school if they believe there is legitamate neglect / falsifications of his education.

Believing he can learn to read and his ability to do it is going to be a long battle for him and you, but it is worth it.

Meanwhile, start simple, with flashcards, or writing out all the simple words with the same beginnings and endings, such as can, man, tan, and stop, start, stairs, etc. And another good idea is to buy comic books with simple words, and sit with him and help him sound them out, "hooked of phonics" is still out there, and may be helpful as well since you said he learns a lot from listening, these are audio tape based learning along with visual support and you can probably get one off of e-bay pretty cheap, since it's not highly advertised nowadays. Good Luck on your mission.
2014-09-18 03:56:11 UTC
Hey,

For a simple, step-by-step program that can help your child learn to read visit this site: http://readingprogram.toptips.org



Learning to read at a young age is important for the development of the child. It helps them develop a better understand of their surroundings, allows them to gather information from printed materials, and provides them with a wonderful source of entertainment when they read stories and rhymes. Children develop at different rates, and some children will develop reading skills quicker than other children; however, what's important is that as the parent, you are keenly aware of your child's maturity and reading level to provide them with appropriate books and activities to help them improve.



As parents, you are the most important teacher for your children.



Also Watch this video of a 2 year old child reading http://readingprogram.toptips.org

Have a nice day
Sully
2006-01-16 06:39:16 UTC
Talk (calmly) to your sister and tell her concerns. Everybody has to be able to read well to succeed and am sure she wants the best for her son. See if she will have him tested at school. I suspect he maybe dyslexic which a very treatable condition. If she won't have him tested offer to spend a few times a week working with him or check into Literacy Volunteers and see what they have to suggest. They maybe able to work with him for free. You are a good person for caring. Good luck.
Just Me
2006-01-16 06:27:27 UTC
You need a professional to come into the situation. Someone who could test his IQ and grade level. From there, you got to find a tutor that is willing to come over that has patience and experience. That will get him above and beyond the reading he is expected to know
Robert
2017-03-01 06:28:47 UTC
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Alli-son
2006-01-16 06:28:42 UTC
try hooked on phonics. that may help, although i think it may be on the expensive end. im not sure how much youre looking to spend to fix the problem. good luck!
2006-01-16 06:24:34 UTC
enroll in special classes
minifinch101
2006-01-16 06:30:06 UTC
just support him in any way that you can. i'm also 10, and i know how it feels to be left out!!!
trashy_bumper
2006-01-16 06:27:20 UTC
he needs a friend and WAY MORE attention he gets. Can you afford that?


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