How does Physical punishment teach kids that you can use force to get what you want?

Question

How does Physical punishment teach kids that you can use force to get what you want?

Answer 1

Kids do not have reasoning skills and cannot think about things logically so there for they are unable to completely understand what they did wrong and why the act was wrong. This is especially true with younger kids. If they did have those reasoning skills then they wouldn't be children they would be fully matured adults. Also kids simply don't have language skills to have a conversation about what they did wrong.



It is a parents responsibility to ensure that their children are safe and learn right from wrong. So at times a parent may have to use physical punishment such as spanking to re-enforce to the child that their actions were wrong and that their behavior needs to change. Everybody regardless of age understands pain. A little temporary discomfort to a child does no harm to them and when done by a loving parent has no long lasting affects. As the child grows older and their reasoning and judgment skills develop spanking becomes less and less and eventually nonexistent.



Physical punishment doesn't teach kids that you can use force to get what you want it teaches them right from wrong. It teaches appropriate behavior. It's a tool that parents use until the child learns reasoning, judgment, and language skills.

Answer 2

You know this question can be looked from both sides. And having been on both sides I can definitely understand them.



I was 12 when my parents got a divorce. My mother eventually started taking things out on me. It started with slaps and ended with one cold night when I was 15 and my head was being thrashed into the concrete pavement. (You may ask "Well what was it that you did wrong?") The answer is nothing-a car filled with hormone crazed boys drove by and did the whistling and hollering typical teenage thing. I rolled my eyes and did NOTHING! For this I was beat till the point the police arrived.



Now my father on the other hand is the light of my life, he rescued me from all of that and from the beginning of my life he never laid one hand to spank me. At the small age of 3, I remember him telling me "Honey your getting OBNOXIOS" And that was all I needed to hear-no spanks-no yelling. I respected and still love and respect him very much.



I am now much older- married and have a 19 month son of my own. To this day he has never and will never meet the woman who I dare even call mother-but my dad, I call him maybe 3 times a day to check up on him.



I now have a 5 yr old sister. I love her with all my heart, but I see the way she acts with dad and it hurts me at times. I have seen my dad spank her though. I asked why he spanks her and never once me? He told me that its all about the children and the code we are born with-OBEY-or-TEST. This makes sense.



While I agree a literal beating is never right. But a slap on the hand or on the butt is both tolerable and understandable.



I use this with my own son. You see, I rather give him a slap on the hand after I have already told him "NO" quite a few times. In my opinion, it is better that he gets a tingly discomfort on his hand or butt after he has touched the Christmas bulbs one too many times or put a coin in his mouth repeatedly-this way the discomfort is not as great as if the bulb was to shatter in his hands and eyes or if he were to choke on the coin. I feel like I do this for his own protection in the long run. This way if mama turns her back for a second he remembers the discomfort-because believe me he will not remember the "NO"



Of course once he is older, and good old common sense kicks in-you utilize "the talks" rather than the spanking!



Good luck with all and remember Love is the best policy!

Answer 3

Physical/corporal punishment is abusive and has been proven less effective than non-physical punishment. You should verbally teach the lesson to your child and serve him/her a psychological punishment in the form of removal of a certain privilege. It is far more effective.



I was hardly ever beaten as a child; but when I was I took it as the most extreme of insults and refused to acknowledge the actions of my parent because s/he struck me. I was in the three-seven age range and this is how I felt then. I felt violated and furious. It made me (temporarily) despise the person striking me. It was never to the point of physical injury, but just enough to give me red skin. Even so, I would not obey BECAUSE of the hitting.



Physical violence is not the product of intelligence and planning but rather it is the product of stupidity and impulsiveness. A person with the slightest knowledge on parenting will have read psychological studies proving corporal punishment of children to be an incorrect method of discipline and less effective than non-physical punishment. So, anyone who concludes that physical punishment is better for their child is lacking in intelligence. Anyone who knows that physical punishment is wrong and ineffective and still does it is teaching their child that violent behaviour from impulsive emotions is an acceptable way of dealing with problems. So choose which one you will be - a moron or an emotionally volatile person that propagates this trait onto his/her child.



The initiation of violent acts between you and another individual is absolutely never acceptable.

Answer 4

I dont think its the physical punishment that does that.



That can still be done with threats, intimidation, coercing, and general manipulation.



All actions adults take, teach kids how to be adults.



How does our goverments use of war teach kids that you use force to get what you want?

Answer 5

I find this so sad all you teach is physical violence towards others to get what you want. Meaning the person you hit. So on and on it goes. Do you know that old saying , keep your hands to yourself. Well more adults need to do that. So maybe kids will stop being bully's in school. Think it might work I do.

Answer 6

i think physical punishment more along the lines teaches them to respect authority, and to behave. not so much that force gets them what they want.

Answer 7

If a parent is using physical punishment, they are forcing the kid to do things their way.



A kid might take that as.. "if my parents can do it, and get me to do what they want.. then maybe if i do it to so and so i can get them to do what I WANT"



Kids pick up on what their parents do, whether it's right or wrong. They are always watching.

Answer 8

There's more than one way. But it shows, if someone does something you don't like, hit there *** and you get it!