Discipline 6 year old?

Question

Discipline 6 year old?

Answer 1

I'm nine

and the only thing that my mom does to me is yell

as loud as she can

Answer 2

send him to a foster home.

Answer 3

OLDER BREO PROGRAM.

Answer 4

Most of the time when young kids (and older kids too) act up in school it's because they're unhappy or stressed about something. Try to figure out what's stressing him out, and see if you can correct it.



Is anything going on at home that he could be stressed about? Divorce, new siblings, step-parents, etc. can be really stressful for kids. If you and your husband fight a lot, even if you think your son is asleep, that can be really hard on kids too. Problems at home are the biggest cause of behavior problems at school.



Is he fitting in with the other kids? If he's having trouble fitting in, get to know some of the other parents of kids in his class and arrange play-dates. It may seem weird to you to be arranging for him to hang out with someone he's not friends with yet, but with kids that age it actually tends to go pretty well.



How is he doing accademically? Maybe he's struggling to learn to read or can't keep up in math. If he's having trouble, you might want to have him assessed for learning disabilities. When kids are struggling there's usually a reason, and, speaking from experience, early intervention can make a huge difference for years to come.



There are plenty of other things that can be going on. If you can't figure out what's up, you might want to have take him to a psycologist for assessment. It's never just that they're badly behaved, so disipline probably isn't the answer.

Answer 5

I do not recommend punishment or reward. The child is already being punished at school - you don't want them to feel rejected by you too. You must reinforce the bond that you currently have with your child, that you are there for them whenever they need you. COMMUNICATION IS KEY! Rewards are all too easily turned into manipulative tools and the rewards lose value all too fast w/o resolving the situation. They can actually cause more trouble down the road.



I would go to the school and sit outside the room (w/o the teacher being informed if possible so you can hear what they are doing too) and listen to see what really is going on. You may be suprised what you hear. Part of the conflict may actually be originating from the teacher. It is normal to have a little difficulty adjusting to changes in situations, if you handle it well that shouldn't take long.



My child has a conflict with one of her classmates. She reacts dramatically to his subtle teasing and ends up getting punished while he gets away with it. I am working with her to recognise that when she acts dramatically she get sthe negative attn. She has to maintain a level head and methodically handle the situation. This is NOT the advice her teacher gave her though... the teacher suggested putting her hands on her hips and smartly saying "SSOooo!" before walking away. [ARGH!!!! real good one there teach!] Had I not been lurking I would have missed this situation and she'd still be getting notes home about her horrible behavior and how she might need to be expelled.



There is nothing more important than being personally involved. Investigate the situation in what ever way it takes to get the true facts. Protect your child but don't shelter them. Show them that you really care and are listening. Finally, give it time.



Good luck!!! Remember DISCIPLINE means GUIDANCE, not punishment. You are the model for your child and you are leading them in the right direction.

Answer 6

Try to find out why he's misbehaving. It could just be the typical response to being on vacation for 2 weeks, it takes a while to get back into the routine and rules of school. If there's another factor, address that.



Find some activity that is optional, like tv or video games or candy and tell him that it's only available on days that he's good. It's different from taking it away on bad days in that you're reinforcing the good behavior with reward instead of punishing the bad. Each day he's good at school he gets that reward. Make a special treat if he's good a certain number of days out of the week, you decide. Start with 3 and move up from there for a suggestion. Perhaps take him to get a kids meal from a restaurant or plan a trip to the park if you don't go for the material rewards.



If you really don't want to get into the reward game, keep a calendar on the fridge and have him mark down his behavior for the day. Only keep one month or 1-2 weeks up at a time, kids need the opportunity to start over. If he's had a good day, he gets a green smiley face and a bad day gets a red frown. Using the colors he will see which has more. Encourage him to have the calendar more green than red.



Making him responsible for his own behavior is the key and when he realizes that it is him that "chooses" what he will get after school, he'll take more interest in his behavior. Children respond better to reward and encouragement than negative punishment, even if the actions are exactly the same.



Good luck.

Answer 7

Is there something major going on in his life? Divorce, death, new baby? He may be asking for more attention. Kids need positive attention. If they don't get positive attention then they will try to get negative attention. If thats not whats going on with your son then try taking away a toy or video game that he loves. My boys got in trouble on the bus and I told them if they get kicked off the bus then I will take them to the pawn shop and make them sell there gamecube and video games to pay for my gas.

Answer 8

As the song said...



..."Before you accuse me, take a look to yourself"



Discipline start with the parents ...there's no other way ...check yourself and the enviroment.



;)

Answer 9

take every toy away all candies/ a good spanking is good .it want kill them,best to nip it in the bud sort of speak.that what grandmam said.

Answer 10

I wouldn't bribe him for good behavior. If there is something he realy likes. A favorite toy, or TV show etc. Take it away. Show him there are consequences to bad behavior. But the hardest thing you need to find out, is why he is mis-behaving. Has something dramatically changed in his life? That may answer a lot of questions

Answer 11

I teach, and about 90% of the time discipline problems stem from a "rocky" homelife. I do not mean that dad is in jail and mom is partying every night, although that sometimes is the case. A rocky homelife can be fighting parents, a lack of routine, too much varied activity, etc.



The best help for discipline problems, in my humble opinion, is a steady, predictable set of rules/consequences, and a steady, predictable daily routine. Children feel safe when they know that everyday, their mom or dad wakes them up and helps them get ready. The child helped pick out school clothes the night before, and mom and dad double-checked homework folders and other matters. The child is up early enough to eat a good, fairly unrushed breakfast. They go to school without a lot of stress from parents screaming about where the socks are or who's turn is it to take the kids, or whatever the tension points are for that family. They know that when they get home, they will pretty much follow the same routine of eating dinner, bathing, spending time with family, etc. When children are well-fed, feel safe, and feel loved, their behavior is better. I am not saying you do not feed your child or that you do not love your child! But consider how your child might feel... are routines out of whack at your house? Has there been a recent upheaval in your child's life? Set up a routine for your child (including a firm bedtime) along with a positive discipline plan and see if he doesn't "calm down" for you.

Answer 12

Your mileage may vary, of course, but I've found tremendous success using Elton Fay's "Love and Logic" methods for discipline. It really takes some of the pressure of being a parent off, and makes the child realize that they do, in fact, have choices, but there are consequences associated with each choice that they make...and such consequences could be good...or bad.



I'm a huge fan of this parenting process. I wish my parents had used it when bringing me up. I think it makes a lot of sense. Check it out.

Answer 13

And in the check the environment issue, if was happening during the holidays, look at the candy issue. There tends to be a lot of it during that time.



Find out the problem.



In the meantime, time out or naps in YOUR bed can work also.

Answer 14

Check out books written by Alfie Kohn. He is an expert in the field. I recently saw him speak at a University and it was wonderful.

Answer 15

Usually kids start behaving if you give them treats for being good (it helped my brother)

Answer 16

you need to tell him while he's young and let him know that youe not playing with him. tell him that acting up in school is not good. you need to get him str8 now before he get into highschool better middle school it will do him some good and you

Answer 17

Do you do a lot of stuff with hem and spend time with hem?(Not Just "quality time" but a lot of time) Dose he boss you or do you boss hem?

Answer 18

give him a dollar evry two days he's good