Question about kids and OCD - and behavior issues at school. What to do?

Question

If your child had OCD and misbehaved often at school, would you defend them and make them feel like they did nothing wrong, or would you tell them their behavior is inappropriate, and privately talk to the teacher and try to explain the disorder?

Answer 1

I am a fourth year education student at Western Michigan University, and in our program, we are taught to recognize, understand, and deal with these problems. Perhaps the childs teacher was not taught in the same way, but I think it would be horrible to have the teacher not accept OCD as a reason for a child's behavior. If the child's parent has clinical diagnosis of the child with OCD, that should be shared with the teacher, and it may even be necessary to make use of the special education teacher to help. I would talk to the teacher about devising a special plan for your student (if they fall into special ed., then this is mandatory, an IEP). I would explain to the child why their behavior was inappropriate, but not make them feel badly about it or anything. Many children with behavior problems get into trouble, and honestly have no idea what they are getting in trouble for. Hope that helps!

Answer 2

Your child needs to regularly see a therapist. By regularly, I don't mean every other day or even every week. Get the therapist to confirm that your child actually has OCD and write a letter to the teacher and the school explaining your child's specific situation. Once this is confirmed, don't punish your child. Ask what they can do next time to avoid getting in trouble. Have them talk to the therapist about what they can do in the classroom so that they don't get in trouble.

Answer 3

I've taught school for 20 years and i've only found a handful of actual OCD students. I could probably count them on the fingers of one hand--in nearly all cases where parents CLAIM their child is OCD it is simply a child who has never been taught what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior in public places. In my classes students with alleged OCD suddenly get over it when they spend three or four days in OCS under tight supervision. At home they have OCD, in my class they are miraculously healed. I should get the Nobel Prize for research.

Answer 4

My sisters son has it,and she has tryed telling him in every way. They just dont understand what makes it stop.

If someone tried to tell you a snake beside you wont hurt you, can you control the fear? Thats what they feel all the time.But explaining it in privite is more humane. My sister had to threaten to sue the school if they did not protect him,from harm and ridacule.

No child left behind, Means more than a grade number.

And he has been hospitalized in a reabilatation center.

Did not help any.

Even they sent him home because they couldn't handle him.

But we all love and accept him the way God made him.Hard as it may be.

Answer 5

im not familiar as to where u r but u can get an advocate to work with ur family to get some sort of help i wouldnt let the behavior go unpunished but id def.talk to the teacher as to what the behaviors r and ways u have dealt with them at ur home. r there any other disorders present.look into ur local mental health division there r all kinds of help out there .u can get wrap around and get a behavior specailist to work with ur child in or out of school. chaek into the mental health or mayb nami.com they can answer more questions with mental health .u also might see about an iep for ur child to help he/she cope in school with the behaviors i hope this helps u